Nerd stuff, child stuff. Some reviews of books, toys, ect. Please comment, and I will answer questions as well. Hopefully we can have some fun discussions. You can follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/momlovesscifi
Monday, August 31, 2015
Possible danger of Hyland's Teething Tablets
Saturday, August 29, 2015
Looking to buy Mary Kay? Look no further
This is the link to my friend's Mary Kay website. This amazing young woman has accomplished more before 21 than most people do by 40. She is an LPN, and is currently working as a school nurse. She is down to earth and has a good head on her shoulders. In addition to allowing my developmentally delayed son be a ring bearer at her wedding, she babysits him from time to time which can be challenging. She has started selling Mary Kay and if you are looking for Mary Kay products, I have attached the link to her website at the top of this post.
Friday, August 28, 2015
Star Trek Renegades news and some randomness
Star Trek Renegades will not be picked up as a series by CBS. My source on the production team discussed a little about what's going on and it is all red tape stuff. But, it will be a crowd sourced web series. Walter Keoning confirmed he would be back for at least two more episodes and then he would retire his iconic Russian character. Since I am pretty sure Russians invented the internet this makes sense that he would be on board. I will post the kickstarter information as soon as I have it.
I posted before that my son will be a ring bearer. I am going to the bridal shower tomorrow. So excited for the bride sn and groom.
This pregnancy has me unbelievably thirsty all the time. I am kind of nervous since I had Gestational Diabetes with my son. I also can't get over the vivid movie quality dreams I keep having. I forgot about those. The Midwife ordered prenatal vitamins for me last evening and I have to pick them up at the hospital's pharmacy.
Don't know if I mentioned it, but my new job is walking distance from my house. My last job was an hour away. Not only is it incredibly nice to be home by 3:40 everyday, but I have the added benefit of being able to walk home for lunch everyday. Life is good.
Thursday, August 27, 2015
Really personal news.
I have written in passing that my husband is losing his job in the fall. I found a new job and started on August 10th. I felt fine my first week of work and then on August 15 I went to my cousin's wife's baby shower. I felt a little bloaty so I wore a body shaper under my dress. Brunch was served and I ate two plates because it was the best food I ever ate. I also peed twice in two hours. I came home and I felt like I was going to vomit everything I ever ate in my life. Sunday I also felt really sick. For the next five days everyday after lunch I felt like I was dying. I almost asked my boss if I could go home early Friday afternoon because I wanted to vomit and then lay down and sleep for about ten years. On a whim I asked my husband if he could pick me up a pregnancy test.
Not sure how visible the result is but for the fourth time since 2011 I am pregnant. I had a miscarriage January 2012, and another January 2015. I am not prepared for this at all. Did I mention I just started a job? Like just started not even four weeks ago?
I cannot even enjoy this pregnancy. I am living in terror that I will miscarry again. The last miscarriage, I had the baby at home. I cannot handle that again.
I wanted to keep this a secret from my job, but sure enough my boss asked me first thing Monday morning if I was pregnant. I almost started crying. She assured me I would not be fired. The good news is I work for a hospital so if I need to run and have labs done, it won't really interfere with the work day that much.
I don't work in the hospital but in a business office across the street. I was able to meet today with a midwife who works in the suite over from where I work. She confirmed I am 4 weeks and 6 days pregnant. I had a C-section with my son and she stated the hospital does not offer VBACs at this time but she in campaigning to have them offered. Given that news, I do not know if I will stay with her for the next eight months because I don't really want another C-section if it can be avoided. I have an ultrasound September 8 to check size and viability.
I haven't told really anyone yet so to those of you who know me in real life, guess what? I didn't want to announce it this way, but I think maybe blogging through this journey, even if it involves the good the bad and the ugly might be therapeutic for me.
I really wanted another child, and I was hoping to foster (http://momlovesscifi.blogspot.com/2015/08/my-brief-venture-into-being-foster.html) but that didn't really pan out the way I wanted. I wanted to have another child but I don't want to experience the heartache of losing another baby.
I am a carrier for cystic fibrosis, my husband is not so no cf babies, and that increases chances of miscarriage while lowering fertility. I am hoping this baby sticks. So far no complications. I have had normal morning sickness and my belly really popped. Like I look about four months pregnant. That concerns me, but not the midwife as of today.
I had GD with my son so I am going to have the test early.
Hoping for a healthy baby in about eight or so months.........
STAR TREK RENEGADES IS ON YOU TUBE! I am sharing the link with you all.
You can watch it here:Star Trek Renegades on YouTube
I saw Renegades and thoroughly enjoyed it. You can read my review here: http://momlovesscifi.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-secret-can-be-told-spoiler-free.html and if you want to know why I am so happy about Renegades, I talk about that here: http://momlovesscifi.blogspot.com/2015/06/why-i-am-so-excited-about-star-trek.html
Update on my Son
My little guy is still non vocal. The good news is that at daycare he laughs with other children.
I posted before that he might need surgery for undescended testicles. Good news! He saw a urologist and all is good and no surgery needed.
He also saw an opthomologist. He might have an astigmatism. At least we have a good health plan.
He had his first haircut. He was really calm all things considered. His curls are more defined now.
This weekend he went to his first party. Apparently licking outdoor toys is more fun than splashing in a wading pool.
He is still slow, but does some things as a toddler would. Eating fruits and vegetables is slow torture. The terrible twos have hit with a vengeance. Bedtime is an almost impossible struggle. I love this phase because he is developing his own personality. He is also trying to test limits so I have to start being more firm. Watching him grow is exciting and I can't wait to see what comes next.
My Brief Venture into being a Foster Parent
Back in June it became known to me that someone I went to high school with had a baby in need of being fostered. I have posted that I have had miscarriages in the past and I desire to have another child. Having a child with developmental delays is stressful so I thought rather than having him and a newborn, having him and an eleven month old would work out.
The case worker came out to the apartment and said the foster child and my son would be perfect play companions and then I never heard from her again. I called repeatedly and finally I emailed her. The case had been transferred and she gave me the contact information of caseworker number two.
Number 2 took almost two months to return my calls. I left dozens of voicmails indicating that whatever paperwork needed to be done I would be more than happy to begin as soon as possible. We threw away furniture my son's room and donated some of his toys and clothes to make room for the foster child. We even got a bag of stuffed animals, clothes, and books for her to welcome her home. We had a friend who had a brand new crib and was just waiting to bring it by the house. Due to my husband getting laid off in October, I started looking for work and found a job. I had a start date and enrolled my son in daycare. Finally I got the call! The baby urgently needed to be placed. Could I enroll her in daycare ASAP, oh and no she can't go where my son is going because he is going to a daycare out of state ? I was on the case! I called over 100 daycares within a 10 mile radius. If the answered, either they were not licensed, the infant rooms were full, or the hours would not work. Finally I found a place that could take her 3 days a week. I found a friend that could watch her the other two days. My husband will be losing his job soon, and he is looking for a second or third shift job anyway so we don't have to keep our son in daycare. He could watch both kids. Well, turns out my friend didn't pass the background check. I called 100 plus more day cares, centers, and professional nannies. Oddly not one place passed a background check. I finally found a daycare that would take the baby. Oddly enough she could not enroll the baby without meeting the baby, per state regulations, but the caseworker would not us have the baby if we could not enroll her in daycare. Also, my mother who is an RN and routinely performs treatments on infants and toddlers could not pass a background check. I got a very brief email stating I do not qualify to be a foster parent.
I am still stunned. The EI coordinator several times she would vouch for me and my husband since EI is here several times a week. It is routinely seen in the news that foster children have been abused or neglected by their foster families. We have proven that we can raise a happy child and have been demonstrating this for over two years now. We would have loved to have had her in our home. Hopefully one day we can get approved. I am not saying the caseworker didn't do her job but I still can't understand how a RN who works with children cannot pass a background check.
Tuesday, July 21, 2015
Apology
Saturday, June 27, 2015
Some progress
So today my son and I were snuggling on the couch after breakfast and I started tickling his feet through his socks. I took his socks off and started tickling his toes. He said "piggies!" through peals of giggles and started laughing really hard after he said it. So of course we had some very fun rounds of the popular tickle filled nursery rhyme.
Thursday, June 25, 2015
OT and Speech Therapy June 24, 2015
Tuesday, June 23, 2015
My brother gave a TED talk on black holes
My son's two year checkup, not as much progress as I had hoped.
Seeing how much progress he made in other areas,some of the visit was a shock to me.
We got a huge surprise when he got weighed. Somehow my eating machine is only 23.5 pounds and 33 inches. If you remember, we had nutritional services for a while because he wasn't gaining and growing in the past. The Pediatrician asked us what he eats. I told him that the day starts with fruit, goat yogurt and cereal, plus water and whole milk, or whole goat's milk; lunch is either leftovers or eggs and vegetables in a wrap, or peanut butter and banana sandwich, or quinoa and vegetables or something to that effect; supper is whatever I made for supper that night. He gets milk before bed, and when he is hungry he gets snacks. I also drizzle olive oil on his food so he gets more healthy fat. He needs to eat more snacks, and we have to go back to the Pediatric Gastroenterologist to check that everything is working ok. If you guys could see him eat, you would be impressed with how much this kid packs away. He has chubby cheeks, a huge pot belly, and very chubby legs. He certainly does not look underweight and he is solid as a brick. I would definitely love advice on what I can do to help him healthfully add weight.
She then asked if he is showing signs of potty training readiness which I think he is. He pulls off his diaper, he holds his bladder, he grabs his crotch when he is wet. Since he is nonverbal she said we would have to work out a strategy for him to signal when he needs to go, which we already did. OT suggested we take a picture of his potty and put it where he can see it and point to it and say "It is time to go to the bathroom." She said we can certainly go ahead with potty training, but since he is nonverbal, and has developmental delays she said to really not push too hard.
She then proceeded with examining him and when she got to his genitals, she looked concerned. She asked with a worried voice if we noticed his testicles in his scrotum when he takes a warm bath. My husband and I looked at each other and no we don't pay particular attention to our son's scrotum when he is in the bath. She then said his scrotum looks empty and asked if we noticed his testicles ever. I said I see them time to time when I change his diaper, but again, I don't pay particular attention to that region other than making sure it is clean and well, looks ok. She said he needs to have an ultrasound to make sure they are not twisted inside his body and he may need surgery to pull them down and pin them into his scrotum. I thought my husband was going to pass out when she said that. She said it is a routine procedure and there is always the chance they will drop before the surgery. For those medically inclined, here is the procedure that may be done: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/undescended-testicle/basics/definition/con-20037877
Finally we got to his developmental delays. She said A. the EI coordinator called the office and said my son has rigid behavior patterns, is nonverbal, had issues with gross and fine motor skills, has low muscle tone, and does not play as a twenty four month old child should be. She asked if I agree. She made a referral for him to get an Autism screening done. I told her that I am so happy that finally that is going to happen. If you remember, I wrote about concerns with Autism before. You can read past entries http://momlovesscifi.blogspot.com/2015/05/hearing-test-05182015.html and http://momlovesscifi.blogspot.com/2015/03/thoughts-on-this-weekends-trip.html that sum up more or less how I feel he might have Autism. We can handle this, and I wanted to get a diagnosis for a while now because then we will know how to better support him and help him succeed. This isn't his journey, or my journey, it is our journey. I need to learn how to be a good mom and support to him, and he needs to learn how to comfort himself, how to adapt, and how to play up his strengths. I am reading Temple Grandin's right now and have taken books on Autism out of the library. This screening is going to benefit all of us and I frankly cannot wait to go.
We have a full week ahead with OT, going to Sensation Station and meeting with a mother of an Autistic child later this week. I will keep up with my blog about our journey as I have been doing.
Sunday, June 14, 2015
Star Trek Renegades North America Premire
The production team is in talks to rent a very large theater so cast, crew, and fans can all meet together to watch the pilot/film. It looks like the showing will be in Los Angeles, California on Saturday, August 1st. Based on what is on Facebook at this time, there are not any firm plans for YouTube or DVD releases. It also looks at this time, it is not known when the general public can see Renegades.
You can get more up to date news on their website www.startrekrenegades.com
Renegades really is good. This fan truly hopes we haven't seen the last of Star Trek Renegades.
Star Trek Blog
Saturday, June 13, 2015
Jessleecreations on Etsy
I should soon be receiving this Yoda lovey:

I will be reviewing the Yoda lovey when I receive it.
Here is the bottle cozy:

She even makes bags:

You can visit her Etsy store at:
Signs of more progress. OT and Speech Therapy 06/10/15
C. showed up and had A., a new COTA with her today. I discussed the Sensation Station with them while we waited for M. the Speech Therapist to arrive. C. was pretty excited because one of her professors opened the Sensation Station. We discussed how my son is saying "go car" and how he is climbing now, by using me as a jungle gym. M. showed up shortly after C. and A. arrived and I told them all how my son was under the weather and that I wanted to at least try to see if we could do the hour session.
My son started crying when C. and A. went in the living room. This was new behavior and it concerned me. He shied away from C. when she sat on the floor to engage him. He was also wary of M. I could see him being shy with A. since he never met her before, but C. and M. he has seen multiple times.
My son has sensory balls, similar to the image below. M. started the session off by rolling the ball along the bottom of his feet and down his arms.
Friday, June 12, 2015
Why I am so Excited about Star Trek Renegades
I was very wary of Adrienne Wilkinson's acting when watching trailers. I thought she was going to chew the scenery, but I was very excited to see I was wrong. Watching her scenes in context, you can see what motivates her to play the character of Lexxa Singh the way she does. In some scenes, her acting is actually subtle when it needs to be. She gave a very strong performance.
I have liked Star Trek my whole life, even when it decidedly not acceptable to be an avid fan. I spent my Saturday afternoons watching four hours of Star Trek on a local Fox affiliate. James Kirk was the captain that we needed in the 1960's. He was a man's man. Every woman, regardless of planet of origin, wanted to be with him, and all men wanted to be him. Jean-Luc Picard was a captain with the heart of a poet. When he was not avoiding the advances of Lwaxana Troi, he was reading or deep in conversation over Earl Grey tea, hot. Benjamin Sisko was a very forward thinking father who turned out to be the prophesied Emissary of the Bajoran people, but he kept his cool under pressure even if he may have started the Dominion war. Then along came Kathryn Janeway. Maybe it wasn't her fault she was an awful captain. Maybe the stress of having her ship flung out to the Delta quadrant or maybe it was all the Maquis who had to join her crew that did it. Maybe Neelix switched her coffee to decaf and never told her. I did not watch much of Voyager because every show started with "Here is the problem." and Janeway responding with "I don't know anything at all about that." or "I am so confused." Voyager could have been such a better show, but the captain never grew or held her own with well anyone really. It was disappointing to see such a lackluster performance from a female lead. Lexxa Singh is the female captain we need. She is not technically Starfleet, more of a contract employee for them. She is the perfect mix of emotion and action that Jim Kirk, Picard, and Sisko embodied. She had a troubled past and had to rely on her inner strength survive.
In the original series there were strong women characters. You could not survive on the original Enterprise if you could not keep your wits about you. The Next Generation brought us Tasha Yar, a character sadly killed off before we fully knew her. Kira Nerys was the woman we waited for as Star Trek fans, but toward the end of the series even she was under utilized. Star Trek Renegades brings us a ship full of strong women characters. Lexxa Singh and her almost entirely female crew show that we can have a strong female presence among the stars. She is a very strong character who can carry the show, if it gets picked up. I also enjoyed Chasty Ballesteros as the Betazoid Ronara who has a genetic defect. Sean Young is excellent as Dr. Lucien. She plays the character very soft spoken and I hung on every word. Her emotions project off the screen and you understand why she makes the decisions that she chooses.
As I understand, the production crew is in talks with CBS to have Renegades picked up as a series. As a fan, I would watch this on any platform. It is not the typical Star Trek storyline, but it is also not typical Star Trek characters. These characters are outcasts, they have seen things that cannot be unseen. The may have done dark things for either the greater good, or their own personal gain. I feel this as a show would lend much to the Star Trek legacy.
If you did not see Star Trek Renegades at Fed Con, and if you are not a backer, it will be available in its finalized version this summer. I urge you to watch it when it does become available.
I did write a spoiler free review of Renegades. I also watched Of Gods and Men, which is by the same production team.
Wednesday, June 10, 2015
STAR TREK RENEGADES IMPORTANT NEWS
It appears that the finished version will be released some time next month.
It is still not known if this will be a fan film, or a series. As someone who saw Renegades, it would be an amazing series.
The production crew has asked that all that received the link to not share it at this time.
Also, this is not 100% finished. There are still some editing/effects work to be done. If it looks a little rough, hopefully all the finishing touches will be done by next month.
Thank you so much for sharing this project. Speaking as a lifelong fan, this looks pretty good. I did review Renegades last month and you can read the review here: http://momlovesscifi.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-secret-can-be-told-spoiler-free.html
Monday, June 8, 2015
My son, the ring bearer.
L. is a spiritual aunt to my little guy and he loves her. We will actually be signing paperwork soon that in the event me and my husband were to pass away, L. would become his guardian. She has been close to him since he was born. Before the wedding was announced L. said my son would be her ring bearer. I got a little nervous because he didn't start walking until last December so I thought for a while he might need a wagon. Now the wedding date has been announced, L. and I spent a little time hanging out and looked at suits and tuxedos and discussed her wedding colors. I am so excited my son will get to be a part of her special day.
I am nervous though because of the developmental delays. He does not respond to verbal instructions. Also, he lives in his own little world. He might not want to walk down the aisle, but wander around the venue. He might not want to give up the rings when the time comes. He also gets bored with objects easily and when he does, he throws them over his shoulder and walks away. All I can see is my son getting distracted, tossing the rings, and me crying and apologizing like crazy on my hands and knees scrambling to find their rings. L. is going to have him walk with a 10 year old flower girl so she can instruct him down the aisle. We also will be doing ring bearer practice at home. I have asked L. if we can have him carry plastic rings so if he throws them it won't matter. I am very much looking forward to all of this for him, and he is incredibly photogenic so he is going to look great in her wedding photos. Also L. and her fiance know that my son has some limitations so I know they won't get upset. I think this is just my overthinking and everything will be fine and go smooth.
Does anyone have any tips for us?
Sunday, June 7, 2015
June 4, 2015 PT/EI plus something exciting for my son.
It was supposed to be just PT with T., but A. the EI service coordinator called and said she had a cancellation and asked if she could come by as well. I told her that it would be fine for her to come by.
When T. and A. showed up, I had some cool news. My son has started saying "go car" a lot. Like all the time. More words are a good thing even if only the speaker understands them. My son has also started climbing! He uses me to climb on to the back of the couch to perch up there and look out the window. He worked with T. to climb from the floor to an ottoman to the couch and then up the back. I was standing behind T. just being quiet and watching them when my son got very nervous and started looking anxiously behind him. He has become more aware of his surroundings which is also good development. When he finally saw me, he calmed down.
He was very apprehensious of A. and T. this week for some reason. He usually hugs A. and smiles at her, this visit he screamed and cried. He is getting his molars in and he grew about five inches last week, no lie he had a major growth spurt, so we were thinking he was just in pain.
T. said not to keep the ottoman static, but to move it from one side of the couch to the other so my son can practice climbing on both sides, using both legs.
We discussed potty training again, but a little more seriously this time. My son does not like to dirty a diaper he already soiled. He will hold his bladder until you change the diaper. Also, he has started taking his diaper off more. We discussed how this could be hard because he is non-verbal. The hints they gave me was to give him a plastic "bubble" book that can be washed off to look at on the potty and then he will eventually relax and go. Also, T. said to take a picture of his potty and put it somewhere visible in the living room/his bedroom/the kitchen, just somewhere visible, and when it is time to go on the potty to tap the picture and say "Time to go to the bathroom." Eventually he will make an association and should be able to point to the picture of his potty when he needs to go.
The other thing we discussed was my son joining a play group for non-verbal children aged two to five or four at the Sensation Station. (http://sensationstationus.com/). The playgroup will do sensory play and use musical instruments. T. and A. are both pretty excited about this. The playgroup will run for 8 weeks and I think it will greatly benefit my son. I should be meeting with the director of Sensation Station June 9 , and I will definitely blog about it. A. filled out a disclosure agreement so she can reach out to the Sensation Station to help chart my son's growth.
That was pretty much it this week, but there has been some progress so like always, I am looking forward to next week's therapy. It continues to help both me and my son.

