Thursday, March 19, 2015

My Sister in Law

No names because I want to protect the innocent, but this post is about my sister in law.

We actually had a discussion via Facebook messaging about the story I call "If you have to go to the ER at midnight, watching Frozen on a continous loop is the only way to do it OR What do mean no one is allergic to Motrin, why does pinenuts have to be the bad guy?." (No worries I am definetly writing that story up soon.) I was actually writing my ST:Of Gods and Men review when I glanced down and saw this message: "I'm going to get my own blog entry." So I laughed at first because its 12:04 in the morning and I'm a little out of it now, but every single one of us has a story so I am going to share part of her life.  And you can totally sue me in the morning if you want to.

Again, no names.

My sister in law  went through something no one should have to go through. Everyone always says it is a tragedy when parents outlive their children, and it definitely is. But what about when children lose their parents at a young age? Imagine losing your parent during your teenage years, the time filled with the most inner turmoil you ever experienced. You don't know who you are yet, but society only gives you a few years to make life altering decisions in a short timespan. Now imagine while dealing with that, you have a parent who is sick.  Now imagine, you are the power of attorney for said parent. In addition to having to face your own inner conflicts, you have to make the most important decision you could ever be faced with, but for your parent. The person who helped create you, can you end their life?

My sister in law was faced with that question when her father was sick with mesothelioma. She was a teenager, late teens but still a teenager.  She never thought that when her father entered the hospital that was the last bed he would ever sleep in.

I think it took a great deal of strength to make the decision she made.

She misses her father very much and is living life one day at a time without him.

Let me just say, you never truly know what anyone is dealing with. You may see someone is having a rough day and you may take it personally. That person might be struggling with a literal life or death situation. Also, you may not know it, but this could be the last time you ever see someone. We never know what is going to happen one moment to the next. Remember that. Honestly guys, be kind to one another.